Over 25 years ago, I had a manager that told me that I need to create an invisible jar. When he mentioned this to me, I didn’t know or understand what an “invisible jar” consists of. He told me that whenever you manage people and they give you compliments, hold on to the compliments within an invisible jar. The invisible jar is a concept in which you hold on to compliments and then when you have a bad day you reach into your invisible jar and think about the compliments.
This concept helps me get through my challenging days of managing people. Whenever you take on a leadership role and manage people it can be very difficult at times and stressful. So, I took that advice from decades ago and continue to apply this every day. Whenever I receive a compliment from anyone (family, friends, colleagues, etc.) I place it in the back of my mind. It’s in the invisible jar and when I have bad days that are very challenging, I reflect on the compliments. It allows me to remember what people said and it makes me feel pretty good knowing that one or anyone’s rude or disrespectful behavior will not impact my feelings. The numerous compliments in my invisible jar remind me of my true core.
What was ironic at one point is that I had a family member that used to compliment me repeatedly. I placed those compliments in my invisible jar and then when this family member became critical and judgmental, I had to remember when he used to compliment me and that allowed me to see through his inconsistencies which safeguarded my self-esteem. I would advise everyone to create an invisible jar and use it as frequently as possible. The invisible jar can be used at work, with family, friends and anytime you interact with anyone. It truly works and I will continue to fill up my invisible jar forever.
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