I believe children are gifts from God. The proper parental support will allow your children to be successful. Being successful is not necessarily monetary gain, it can be pursing your dream, living a healthy lifestyle an entire gamut of things. Success is in the eye of the beholder and I believe can be propelled through the right support.
When I was 9 years old, my mother passed away and I thrusted into the world of not having a traditional parental support. It made growing up incredibly challenging and I would watch my friends go home to parents that supported them with Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. From general relatives that took us in and them my grandparents that were living on a fixed income, they did the best they could with three children. My father was there but he didn’t take on the role of true father while I was growing up.
Through observation of other children and even when I went to college (which was on a wing and a prayer with lots of loans), I saw how my friends were being successful through their parent’s support. Whenever a parent (doesn’t necessarily have to be two parents), invest time, love and financial support into their child, their road of getting to their success is a lot easier.
For example, having a steady home to live in allowed them to be able to receive what every child should receive growing up (working electricity so they can study, not having to compromise on how you will receive your next meal, etc.,). At the age of 11, I started working a job picking up trash off the side of the roads to save enough money for school clothes. I didn’t like when the kids laughed at me for not having my hair taken care of or old dirty cloths, so I had to do what I only knew to do which is work. In the 80s, a child was giving a work permit at the age of 11 to work. Thinking of having that proper parental support available with economical support, I wouldn’t have to decide to work at such a young age to accommodate what a responsible parent (or adult) should have supported.
I have to say support will have to balanced. I have met plenty of people that was provided everything they wanted growing up as a child that they became co-dependent adults. I can say that my humble beginnings did develop a sense of ambition and can-do spirit that allowed me to create successful moments. Also, it allowed me to see the world from a compassionate viewpoint.
If you see a child that may be struggling due to uncontrollable life circumstances, don’t be afraid to reach out and support them because they are little gifts. You will never know how your support will help them move a little closer to their dreams, goals and their own success.
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